http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3?format=rss Tribe.net. Local Connections http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#68e3ed67-bf2f-4ea4-86cd-bee6c0190401 Hello to all,...I just wanted to add the other side of this equation,...we all have times in our lives when things didn't happen quite like we had hoped, but I would like to say," what about the times that do"...Kaiya,..is my heart's desire. "INTERRACIAL"...well,. I want love ! can you tell me what color love is? Kaiya is beautiful,..through and through,.....as far as the "DISTANCE" goes,.. the 2600 miles between us now grows closer and closer to.....0..... every passing day. We are always together,..bound and set free by our love for one another,...I for her and she for me,...love lives I say and it's color blind and it can not be measured!! Thu, 31 Jul 2008 02:19:19 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#68e3ed67-bf2f-4ea4-86cd-bee6c0190401 richard 2008-07-31T02:19:19Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#acf79b08-1015-45d1-85b5-fd17287ae6b9 Hi Atalaya! Yes, we have...we originally met at a music festival in North Carolina...we just spent last week of June together when I flew there for a hoopdancing retreat. (Little does he know, I'm planning a surprise visit for later this summer. Hee hee) With any luck, he'll be able to come to my family reunion in September (in Los Angeles) -- my dad invited him to come and I will be returning in October to go to the autumn version of that same festival in NC. :D (Yes, I'm going to sign up for frequent flyer miles.) :D You're welcome! Best to all... kaiya Thu, 03 Jul 2008 08:13:35 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#acf79b08-1015-45d1-85b5-fd17287ae6b9 kaiya 2008-07-03T08:13:35Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#b482a3a6-0a30-44d6-a5e8-48bc9359a464 :-) So have you two had the delight of meeting in person. Probably helpful to have other people you know in the area you are considering. Exploring musical tastes and the moments of talk time can be helpful and vital elements. Thank you for posting the articles. Thu, 05 Jun 2008 01:29:17 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#b482a3a6-0a30-44d6-a5e8-48bc9359a464 $item.owner.firstName 2008-06-05T01:29:17Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#c64e6c16-5483-4b33-ad14-4d1f657854c5 Interestingly enough, I just entered into such a relationship. He is near Greensboro, NC and I am in Los Angeles, CA. This is the first long distance relationship for the both of us. I have been in the process of making the move to the Chapel Hill area...will probably settle on Hillsborough, though since September 2007, finally settling on next spring/early summer of 2009. Then along comes the love of my life just a few months ago in April. The lucky thing is that I go to NC a few times a year, (because I have friends there and because I'm going to be moving there & I feel the need to familiarize myself with the area before I arrive there looking like a deer in headlights...lol) Anyway. The fact that I am moving to North Carolina had already been set in motion almost a year before my love and I met...so...maybe that's a little bit different than someone moving across country (or continents) "for" someone? Not sure on that one. Believe it or not, since neither of us really had any knowledge of how to make a long-distance relationship work, I went online and found these two very informative articles: http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work http://www.longdistancerelationships.net/ We talk on the phone for HOURS. Our original record was 14 hours straight but we've broken it with 16.5 hours straight. (I have the type of land line calling plan that is unlimited nationwide long distance) lol We talk at least a little bit everyday; we average about 3 hours a day on days that I don't have school at night (I'm at the end of grad school...ugh!;) and EVERY morning without fail he has left me some sweet email message. We're trying to work it out that he doesn't lose so much sleep...our three hour time difference can be difficult to maneuver around, especially if neither of us wants to hang up the phone...lol We have also done really sweet things like create music playlists for one another, peppered with songs that we want to share either because it's a favorite song, or it's a love song and is meaningful in that way. Our musical tastes are widely divergent, but because we are both total audiophiles, we can embrace the other's taste in music. And then and then and then .... Pardon me. I'm gushing. lol My very, very best to all ... kaiya PS: I have gotten all my co-workers addicted to the playlist thing... it's free and you're only streaming it, not downloading it. so there's no copyright infringement weirdness. It won't have EVERY SINGLE thing you're looking for ... (like I can't find any psytrance, any of the breaks and only a tiny bit of drum n' bass. The downtempo/chill and country offerings are pretty decent, though.) Here it is, if you're interested: www.playlist.com Tue, 03 Jun 2008 07:07:43 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#c64e6c16-5483-4b33-ad14-4d1f657854c5 kaiya 2008-06-03T07:07:43Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#88e83a1e-60a5-41ce-b23c-c5f8947834b9 I don't believe it's a gender based thing, but a personality based one. Some people can commit to the next step of moving to be with a long distance partner (or to accept a long distance partner moving in), whereas others cannot. In this case, it's always possible that he had some things he could hide at a distance, so wasn't really committed anyway, and would rather end it that be found out. Fri, 30 May 2008 02:55:25 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#88e83a1e-60a5-41ce-b23c-c5f8947834b9 BryTee 2008-05-30T02:55:25Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#04d24d34-8b0b-4764-be4b-06fdbb24484a This isn't an example of an interracial couple, but my friend was seriously seeing this guy from Europe. They both said they wanted to commit. Everything seemed to be going well, but she told me that when she started to propose plans of moving out there, he broke up with her. What a wuss!!! I don't understand how a man can handle a long distance relationship and then when she's ready to move to you (which is a huge compromise on her part), you get scared. wtf! Wed, 28 May 2008 06:40:15 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#04d24d34-8b0b-4764-be4b-06fdbb24484a Le 2008-05-28T06:40:15Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#ff8ce71e-5e4f-42a5-937d-d7df517cdb35 Trust me, long distance romance is extremely hard to go through. I thought i would be able to handle it, but , at times it can be difficult. Thu, 22 May 2008 00:21:25 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#ff8ce71e-5e4f-42a5-937d-d7df517cdb35 LOU 2008-05-22T00:21:25Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#0db987d9-467c-425e-b6bd-fe8af9cd42bb Sounds like that was a convenient way for him to break up with you. Sorry but as always it happened for a reason, and now you've moved on, hopefully. Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:43:42 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#0db987d9-467c-425e-b6bd-fe8af9cd42bb Le 2008-04-30T22:43:42Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#8f6e516f-cba7-439b-a01e-b1155218fd39 :( I admire your strength. The more you say it, the less power it'll have to hurt you. :) Wed, 30 Apr 2008 02:38:55 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#8f6e516f-cba7-439b-a01e-b1155218fd39 patientzero 2008-04-30T02:38:55Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#08cb533e-920c-42d1-b30f-1c74b8a0a02d Well, I theorized and analyzed it to death so long ago and in the end, I came up with two possible explainations as to why he didn't want me to move even though I was willing. One of the explainations made my heart feel a little better. The other explaination is probably the right one...the more painful one, but the right one. Anyway, I figure that he didn't want me to move because either: 1. It was way too soon in our relationship to make a decision like that. Or... 2. He didn't see anything in the relationship worth working for... in other words, he just wasn't THAT into me. ....Ouch... Years later and it still hurts to say that out loud :-( Tue, 29 Apr 2008 16:32:39 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#08cb533e-920c-42d1-b30f-1c74b8a0a02d Asha 2008-04-29T16:32:39Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#9db2f00d-bf8b-416a-a516-893a5e6e9f07 He didn't want you to move to him even though you were okay with it? Why not? Just curious. Tue, 29 Apr 2008 00:02:59 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#9db2f00d-bf8b-416a-a516-893a5e6e9f07 Le 2008-04-29T00:02:59Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#2fdc7ce9-216f-4121-8357-f731b798a6d1 I definitely agree with what many of you said about any type of long distance dating relationship being difficult. I was in an interracial long distance relationship several years ago and it was the distance that killed it. I was more than willing to move, but unfortunately he wasn't ok with that. As difficult as it can be though, I still actually believe that it could work (for some)...BUT...only for a short amount of time. Basically, long enough to see if there is something there worth making a bigger move and someone relocating. Personally, I would prefer to not be in a long distance relationship again, but at the same time, I also can't see myself turning down a "knock my socks off" amazing man if he crosses my path and happens to be farther away then I like! ;-) Sun, 27 Apr 2008 02:34:23 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#2fdc7ce9-216f-4121-8357-f731b798a6d1 Asha 2008-04-27T02:34:23Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#4212dae2-db02-42f3-bd7f-ed1ce8ca3226 The only way I can see an interracial long-distance relationship being different than any other kind is if there are language barriers. So if one doesn't speak the other's primary language fluently and vice-versa, and they are long-distance so verbal and written communication (versus seeing each other in person with body language/sex/etc) is the only way to maintain intimacy, then it can be really difficult. I'm not speaking from personal xxxperience, but I'm just throwing this out there as a possibility if you date someone who is foreign. Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:17:59 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#4212dae2-db02-42f3-bd7f-ed1ce8ca3226 Le 2008-04-24T22:17:59Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#cc7d61b9-b0d0-437f-b9cb-3dc87a1cb3f3 How has useage of the internet influenced willingness to try building long distance relationships? Tue, 22 Apr 2008 21:56:51 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#cc7d61b9-b0d0-437f-b9cb-3dc87a1cb3f3 $item.owner.firstName 2008-04-22T21:56:51Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#4131cd2a-b3e1-4f37-950c-9bea6c6c2672 In both cases, I paid for my own move and share of housing. I looked at the moves as opportunities to learn about and live in another community, geographical environment and with another person. I do notice looking back that neither fellow seemed to express much interest in learning about where I lived and worked or seemed that willing to move themselves. Guess that was a good size clue right there! ;) Wed, 16 Apr 2008 16:42:48 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#4131cd2a-b3e1-4f37-950c-9bea6c6c2672 $item.owner.firstName 2008-04-16T16:42:48Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#7782c69a-0675-431c-b7df-dda7beb94981 I did move, twice for long distance relationship. Yes, it was a risk I was willing to take, packing up my life and moved on out. Resettling in a new area means creating a new network, finding employment, finding out if both parties are actually compatible to be living together for an extended period, etc. Its not something I would probably consider as easily currently. Wed, 16 Apr 2008 15:34:23 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#7782c69a-0675-431c-b7df-dda7beb94981 $item.owner.firstName 2008-04-16T15:34:23Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#6f142f00-0658-48b6-8df7-5f9f4975cffc Long distance anything is tough. In this country - sometimes the interracial is tough. A double-whammy like that - nope. Can't do it. Tried the long distance relationship - we were together for a brief time, then I moved for a job, she was to have followed. Then she got cold feet on the move. I would fly her out to see me, I would fly to see her, but it didn't last. I don't think I'll try it again ever. Wed, 16 Apr 2008 06:28:18 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#6f142f00-0658-48b6-8df7-5f9f4975cffc SeanSkee 2008-04-16T06:28:18Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#eb9c3084-c785-4351-8c68-805402525e54 I had a long distance relationship (it was interracial). It would have been ok except she refused to move, and refused to let me move! Always having some reason or another about why we cannot be together - "not right now" she'd say. Except my belief on a relationship is to live with my partner the majority of the time. So it sounds obvious to get out, doesn't it? Unfortunately, love is blind, and it took me years to get out - all while she was sucking my funds, rarely directly asking for her bills to be paid, just tugging at my caring side with tales of woe. Other things she did,since I wasn't there to see, others have said she was fabricating or lying about things, but I had no evidence either way, just things I knew people said didn't add up, but I lack knowledge to know for sure. Wed, 16 Apr 2008 01:47:02 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#eb9c3084-c785-4351-8c68-805402525e54 BryTee 2008-04-16T01:47:02Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#b82eca79-8897-484c-8b33-3a2741f65e8e I would not do a long distance relationship of any race. For me a long distance relationship is just not doable. It is hard enough to have a short distance relationship with the added issues of distance. Tue, 15 Apr 2008 18:37:01 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#b82eca79-8897-484c-8b33-3a2741f65e8e Sonja 2008-04-15T18:37:01Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#3d8158c7-0025-48f7-80cf-ab5d310907b2 No way, Philip! It's fine. It's about romance and all is fair in love and war and all that stuff! Long-distance of anything is tough. Good luck to those that travel on that road! Sun, 13 Apr 2008 04:48:38 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#3d8158c7-0025-48f7-80cf-ab5d310907b2 patientzero 2008-04-13T04:48:38Z http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#70167b5b-ebe1-4372-9952-acf7cc3fc92b I get a feeling that this post ought not have being placed here, and for those who tend to feel the same, then I can only ask that they forgive me for it. But since we're here on the basis of interracial relationships, then let's keep getting on down to it. Any of you ever had the experience or ever thought about indulging in some interracial long distance relationships before? Or perhaps you're thinking of trying it. Sat, 12 Apr 2008 19:11:16 GMT http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/e88af693-9752-4ad1-b092-b5211e2f44e3#70167b5b-ebe1-4372-9952-acf7cc3fc92b philip 2008-04-12T19:11:16Z