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Hi. I'm a caucasion (German/English/American) getting involved with a girl from South America. I came to find out that even in her own country she was dating white guys with blonde or light-colored eyes and hair.
She is brown-skinned/dark-eyed - a very normal hispanic appearance.
Her spoken ENglish is a little fuzzy sometimes, but her writing in English is almost superb, abnd rivals that of many Americans.
I wonder how and why she developed her interest in Caucasian men, and why "her own kind" does not seem to interest her very much. What is even more interesting to me is that she is slightly inexperienced in love for her age...yet she seems to know exactly what she likes, no question about it.
My landlady is also Hispanic, and she says that the men of my girlfriend's country are very undesireable.
Two older male relatives have warned me that truly Hispanic people always end up marrying their own kind in the end.
Is it true? Does anyone know what might be going on here?
She is brown-skinned/dark-eyed - a very normal hispanic appearance.
Her spoken ENglish is a little fuzzy sometimes, but her writing in English is almost superb, abnd rivals that of many Americans.
I wonder how and why she developed her interest in Caucasian men, and why "her own kind" does not seem to interest her very much. What is even more interesting to me is that she is slightly inexperienced in love for her age...yet she seems to know exactly what she likes, no question about it.
My landlady is also Hispanic, and she says that the men of my girlfriend's country are very undesireable.
Two older male relatives have warned me that truly Hispanic people always end up marrying their own kind in the end.
Is it true? Does anyone know what might be going on here?
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Wed, October 25, 2006 - 6:27 AMDepending on what country she is from, there were Germans who fled to South America after World War II, so it's not unheard of that whites (particularly Germans and Italians) live in South America.
I'm half black half Puerto Rican and I've found that I am not very attracte to the men of my racial background. Some of that may be because I grew up around whites, but other than that, I don't really know. White men are beautiful to me.
As for the "truly Hispanic" comment, I disagree. It depends on where her values lie. If she is attached to her family more than she is to you, then yes, she will probably marry a Hispanic male, even more likely, a man descendent from her country. However, if she is willful (like me), she will follow her heart and marry whom she feels, instead of what her family wishes.
But that's my two cents.
You can't help who you love. You're not supposed to.
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Mon, January 15, 2007 - 3:19 PMUnfortunately, there is possibly the issue of light/white skin often being considered more "desirable" genetically and socially in many non-white cultures. South America is heavy with that, so it could be a part of it as well. -
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Thu, April 5, 2007 - 9:58 PMSo here is a little story..I am Hispanic born in new yrk ...lots of races....so i dont feel any different than any ohter american ...dated hispanic guys when I was 16 17 ....yuck never again....then dated black males in my early to middle twenties.....was ok but was more sexual more than anything else...not by my choosing..didnt feel a deep mutual connection) Currently ..almost two yearrs now ..have been dating a caucasion male and he is the best man I have ever met. he is easy going ..hardly ever gets angry...is fun ..can talk...is not judgemental....likes sex but loves the bond of frienship even more( we can hang).....gives me room to breath and I do the same for him.... i never thought, in my eyes that i had anything in common but it seems my personality mixes better with white males. All of a sudden I find then off the wall attractive.....and I love the gentleness ... now I find them physically attractive which I didnt before..I take notice now of how cute they are and I love the personality. I was never able to talk about certain things with the others I dated( like dukes of hazard and scrabble) I know this sounds a bit stupid but I find that some black and hispanic men are not into things like that or even talking on a person to person level.
This is my first one so mybe I just dont know and I just happen to find a beautiful great kindhearted guy who happens to be white. Correct if Im wrong. The biggest factor with me is the person inside. ..not the skin..I find all color skin very sexy..I like the the variety. I realize that environmrnt , education and upbringing can contribute to the way a person is. too. one more funny thing ..I have always had many caucasion friends but mostly women . all my life....only a few males when i was in high school...its increasing now. Any thoughts? -
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Fri, April 6, 2007 - 4:35 PMI'd say do n't think about it too much Jess and enjoy the relationship. :p
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Tue, June 12, 2007 - 11:47 PM"there is possibly the issue of light/white skin often being considered more "desirable" genetically and socially in many non-white cultures"
i back that up, really.
'desirableness' for white/lighter skins dates back from the conquests time (yeah, THAT much back in the day) and its deeply embedded in lots of the population; how european ascending people tend to portray this aura of material success, when dark skinned people, well, are just the workers. -
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Re: Latina likes Aryans
Thu, June 14, 2007 - 10:44 AMYeah, according to the Bible the curse of Noah's son Ham. darker skinned people were to serve the other sons' offspring. I am an african american Male 46 years of age, and have dated different races. I have found that it's not the race that's the differences but the individuals background. I believe that some people are looking for something different than what is known to be true within their own community. If I were exposed to the culture of violence I would either embrace the violence or seek something different. For some change comes as a welcome challenge while others refuse to let go of some of the social norms of their community. I am also a Navy vet which granted me the opportunity to meet many different people. Today I continue to live in the south(Alabama) but I did leave my community of birth. some of my ideas changed but many i still embrace and cherish. For the first time in many years I am involved with a African american woman, and our relationships is more than wonderful. My desire to date other races in my younger years was an attempt to discover something different than the seemingly hopelessness of my community. Now if I am discussing someones race as relationship it is based in fulfilling some type of fetish or a sexual urge. I don't desire to develop relationships based on the difference, but more because of similarities. The person I am today counts and I am also valuable and worthy of a loving relationship without compromising my charater or personality for acceptance or security.
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