Tribe.net. Local Connections Kaisenji http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#f222eb7d-3e5e-4414-923f-73b510cc9924 2009-10-18T21:01:13Z 2009-10-18T21:01:13Z

Now if the gent wanted to get to know me as a person first, then cool beans let's talk because I assure you I am still a human just with darker skin and a different point of view of life as we know it. Once it is known that the interest is purely sexual and we have all heard those lines, then I send them on their way. That was all the rage in the 1990's-if they missed out oh well.

Kaisenji 2009-10-18T21:01:13Z $item.owner.firstName http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#2a83db67-dd6e-46b0-90f1-a5b9471d2ed8 2009-09-04T18:06:04Z 2009-09-04T18:06:04Z

Timber, Same as with me. A long time ago, I wouldn't have dated outside my race either. However, I have had the exact same experience as you since then, and feel the exact same way....

$item.owner.firstName 2009-09-04T18:06:04Z philip http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#aefce218-3cd5-4a69-874e-c2b9c3467cd5 2009-09-04T17:56:41Z 2009-09-04T17:56:41Z

I've met a hubby online who stated such to me. A good thing we were in a forum and he quickly got booed out of the place. He probably was there to spy on his wife.

philip 2009-09-04T17:56:41Z marquis http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#e82a3eed-ae1e-4839-b520-b246f8f2e9a9 2009-07-30T00:25:35Z 2009-07-30T00:25:35Z

ive been with my pr bf for 4 yrs now. ive heard the lines too but i agree with everybody. if ur interested in someone just say so dont just use i was never raised that way. i really hate that line lmao! its like when i hear that it makes me think they are still sleeping with their parents and what i mean by that is still listening to them and cant think 4 themselves. these ppl ive met b4 obviously didnt seem to have a clue about their lives or relationships. u can tell by how they talk! lol i found it funny they had no probs making friends from different races but cant date outside their race!

marquis 2009-07-30T00:25:35Z richard http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#b177f2d2-9a14-4937-8ed1-0c320c5b6ee7 2009-07-03T15:38:57Z 2009-07-03T15:38:57Z

It is my pleaser to post in this discussion. I am a white man in LOVE with a BEAUTIFUL black woman. We are about to be married this October,..all though we have rings that we wear now. We just had our first baby{both first child}. I say all of this not to be bragging ,but to have you see interracial romance works,..if the two people fit. What I mean is the two have to be on the same page in their lives. The things we as people go through, the things that shape us into who we are and where we are headed. YES ,.. I met women that wanted to find out what it was like to be with me,..they used me for their gain,.. and that was from women of different races but the thing is I have always pictured myself with a black woman,..so for the white women I was with they lacked something I always knew I needed.sence I was a little guy at the age of 10 or so. I have been married before to a white woman for about 5 years after being with her some time before that. She left me , but to be fair we weren't on the same page. I wasn't given her what she wanted from me and she wasn't giving me what I wanted. But enough of that,..I started being true to myself long before Rakai{thats the woman I am with now} I met. The things I needed from a woman,..what was it that I was looking for,..and once I did some thinking on it I knew the woman that I could spend the rest of my life with would be a woman that I could connect with easily. I found out that when you are looking for love it is hard to find and most offten ends up as just sex,..but when you find someone you can talk to and be open and truthful to about the good and bad then there is a possiblity of love. When there is no judgement from ether person and the caring for that person is true because there is no lies to dirty up the view . Be true to yourself and love comes knocking. I understand the things you have delt with I have heard those comments like" you are good to my kids but" " the sex is great but" " I was mad at my boy freind" " I wanted to know what it was like" YES they all hurt but when I started to see,... I learned from those women what part I played in letting them hurt me. I wasn't being true to myself,...it was always for them,..I would go and do for them and the only thing I got back was sex. Now don't get me wrong I enjoy sex but it shouldn't be all there is,..so it shouldn't be how you meet someone. I hope that what I have said will help,. my best wishes for you to meet someone you fall in love with!!!!!

richard 2009-07-03T15:38:57Z Timberwolf (aka Walter) http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#71f27dde-4f3d-4f07-a799-461753946560 2009-07-03T11:31:21Z 2009-07-03T11:31:21Z

People are people...what can you do...

Timberwolf (aka Walter) 2009-07-03T11:31:21Z Kerra http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#e6b03abd-3c16-4253-ad3f-2d69abd1cfc9 2009-07-03T03:48:31Z 2009-07-03T03:48:31Z

Oh dear I have had my share of curious white/asian boys in the past. From my teens to early 20's. If there was one looking to test the caramel waters he always seemed to make his way into my circle. You can usually tell the guys who are looking for you to be their jump off. I'm not in the business of being someones lab experiment. I think I've pretty much heard it all. To I just wanna try it out, my family didn't raise me that way , I'll date but I won't marry someone of another race.

Kerra 2009-07-03T03:48:31Z Timberwolf (aka Walter) http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#d4d0d075-180c-442e-a2e3-14121713d2a8 2009-05-13T23:46:50Z 2009-05-13T23:46:50Z

It might be one of those self assurance things the IR dating can be used for. A guy might say to his friends that he would never do it and then in the back of his mind there is that thought of he might do it but he cannot let his friends know this - you know, the double standards thing. This guy will get online and meets a black lady or a lady of another race/culture and chats, seeing how he feels about it. But in the long run he has no intentions of ever dating outside his race. Push come to shove when his back goes in the coner and a date is very possible he'll run like a rat and use every excuse there is to make it look like it wasn't his fault.

Timberwolf (aka Walter) 2009-05-13T23:46:50Z marquis http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#80df3154-a617-43d9-9863-b1685cd76a15 2009-05-13T18:14:14Z 2009-05-13T18:14:14Z

i know huh? im black too and i put that out there yet it still seems to be a prob! lol. i had someone a long time ago contacted me, after a few emails or so, told me he never dated outside his race and he didnt want too. i said then why r u talking to me? the guy got offended and said whats wrong with talking? i said nothing but my ad didnt say i just wanna meet someone to chat with. he took that up the ass and i asked him if u dont date outside the race then why do u care who i date or what preference do i prefer? the funny answer i got was "i needed to make sure that there are some black women who love white men." my mouth dropped when i read that online! i was like he needed a verification to see if there were black women who like white men. i have gotten a few of those from white guys before. after that, i ended that conversation and he got angry. i dont know why he didnt date outside the race, as far as he was concern, if he had sex with a woman outside his race thats as close as he wanted to go. i just tell them if u got a prob with IR dating dont bother, why waste ur time?

marquis 2009-05-13T18:14:14Z Timberwolf (aka Walter) http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#09c9e7c5-d714-46b7-a22e-e062794aa3c6 2009-05-13T02:15:59Z 2009-05-13T02:15:59Z

I can say that years ago (30+) I would not date or marry outside my race. Back then I was so closed minded, thank you society. Now my attitude is so different. I have met, dated, slept with, several beautiful ladies that are not of my race and I have no problem with it. Ok, yes I did "test" the waters many years ago but the black lady that was with me then was very understanding and also she was "testing" the waters herself. The good part was we were very good friends before it went any further. I have seen many ladies outside my race that I would be proud to say that she was with me.

Timberwolf (aka Walter) 2009-05-13T02:15:59Z Sonja http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#8777e9c4-98e0-45f0-a528-54de4ee6b36d 2009-05-12T23:45:52Z 2009-05-12T23:45:52Z

I had to think about that one. If I have they never got far enough for that to be a question. Or I just erased them. When I talking to someone online the first thing I put out there is that I am black. That way if they have a problem with color we can stop before it goes any further.

Sonja 2009-05-12T23:45:52Z marquis http://interracial.tribe.net/thread/908bd203-c8cf-4d36-840e-58b72c8e6c9c#0dbf739e-adf4-45f0-96e7-93d19cbcfcf0 2009-04-04T21:15:13Z 2009-04-04T21:15:13Z

i would like to start a discussion. has anyone ever met someone they liked and found out later on that person said that interracial dating wasnt for them? or u found out later that same person said "i just wanted to experiment sex with u to see what ur people are like in bed?" another one thats my fav is when someone told me "i just wanted to see how open minded i am for interracial dating so i wont be called a bigot, but other than that, i have no interest in ever marrying someone outside my race." ive heard so many excuses when it comes to interracial dating. ive had a guy tell me i wasnt his type yet he didnt date black women but expected me to wait for him and not fuck someone else. he wasnt into interracial dating but would always asked me what race did i prefer to date. does anyone have any stories they would like to share?

marquis 2009-04-04T21:15:13Z