How Do Your Folks Feel ...

topic posted Thu, August 30, 2007 - 10:04 AM by  philip
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Not every family member, I believe, has yet adjusted his/her thoughts towards finding out that one of their sibling is dating a person of colour. Even in this day and age, a lot of akward prejudice still exists, and we shouldn't pretend it doesn't. I want to know, how would your folks or friends feel if they found you being involved in an interracial relationship?
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  • Re: How Do Your Folks Feel ...

    Fri, September 28, 2007 - 5:37 PM
    i dont have any family of my own, but my girl is black, and Comanche indian, and is VERY spread out, and so far her family has no problem with her being with a white guy.
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    Wed, October 31, 2007 - 7:18 PM
    The only way I can describe where I was raised is "lily white". However, my parents taught me that everyone is equal and they taught me to love and never hate anyone for just looking different than I do. Comming up at the time I did and where I was, this is a pretty remarkable thing. I had the best parents. I still have Mom and she is perfectly fine with it. So are my brothers and my whole extended family. I have been blessed.
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    Thu, November 1, 2007 - 4:44 PM
    my folks are dead, so no worries there but hers, well, so far everything is good, but i worry sometimes. My folks would have loved her to death.not a doubt in my mind. my mom would ahve kicked me in the butt for making her wait so long till i got a decent girl to be with.
    Her folks are up in MD and only know OF me but we've met a few very brief times and i try to make a good impression but im not up to their economic level so that stresses me out a lot.
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    Sun, December 23, 2007 - 10:54 AM
    I don't think my parent would care either way though she might make comments which is VERY annoying.

    My brother would be happy if I am happy which makes him so made of win for that.

    Rest of the family: I could give a **** less what they think. I hope to lead by example of what a HEALTHY, FUNCTIONING relationship looks like not just dating any arsehole that will look at you.
    Cheers.
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      Wed, December 26, 2007 - 11:11 AM
      I don't talk to my dad about stuff like this. Cum to think of it, I don't talk to him about much of anything. My mom used to always tell me to bring home a conventional Chinese girl. She kinda gave up on that and now she doesn't seem to care who I date. Either way, I never bring home girls anyway. I probably wouldn't tell them about a girl I'm seeing unless the relationship gets serious. Not that I would hide it from them though.
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    Fri, December 28, 2007 - 12:47 AM
    If my family ever cared, they never let me know. In the Past, they always welcomed the man I chose in their homes for the holidays etc... So I am lucky in that regard.
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    Fri, December 28, 2007 - 7:51 AM
    Many years ago, when my older brother brought home his girlfriend from college, who happened to be black.. I remember my mom & grandma grousing about it.

    I confronted them on their bullshit.. and frankly, they NEVER had a solid reason.. As far as I could tell, it was just stupid bigotry.

    Grandma passed away about 10 years ago, leaving my mom as the family matriarch. And my mom is decidedly more liberal than grandma was.

    About 5 years ago, I met the women who is now my wife. She is mixed. As far as I can tell, she has been welcomed into the family with open arms.

    My mom gave me grief about my living with a woman that I was not married to (funny story), but never said ANYTHING about race.. at least not to me.
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      Fri, December 28, 2007 - 9:11 AM
      That's quite a story, Max. I'll bet the time your mom was having that last talk with you, you were just as tensed about if she was going to steer towards that race angle.
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    Thu, February 14, 2008 - 4:24 PM
    my ex boyfriend was english and his family never even mentioned my race.
    my family, on the other hand, they were polite but the fact that he was white was always "something to talk about" =p it was annoying but eh, what are you gonna do

    i remember sitting with him in manchester airport, and this guy, a black man, literally moved to another seat so he could sit and STARE at us. nuttiest thing that i've ever seen =p

    i remember my ex saying two really glorious things
    1) that he hoped eventually everyone would be mixed
    2) even though we were different colors, he said he remembered looking at me and thinking we didnt actually look that different
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      Sat, February 23, 2008 - 5:00 AM
      But here's something that pisses me off: How come there's lots of black folks out there who often throw curses on their fellow blacks when they see them hanging out with someone from a different race?
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        Sat, February 23, 2008 - 5:08 AM
        i have no idea, and it makes me mad too.
        black people will gripe and scream about the racism that affects them, and seem to be willfully oblivious to the racism they project onto other people.
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    Sat, April 5, 2008 - 10:12 PM
    I was created, so I imagine my parents were okay with each other at least for a few moments those years ago.

    On one hand it may have been an act of rebellion against status quo, maybe it was based on real common interests & attraction, or one last blast of summer loving on the coattails of the 60s, welcoming the 70s.

    Any relationship I'm in is filled with multiple ethnicities, even the relationship I have with myself as a human being. So family and friends cant escape from this reality when I'm about. Lol. :-D

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      Thu, August 7, 2008 - 9:38 PM
      I truely believe my parents want me to be happy....as I would hope that all parents would lead their children,..not down,..but up,..up to a place of liven with love in your heart and kind words on your lips... up to a point of liven without angre and revenge.........................just to jump back a few months......If the war,..Phillop,.you mentioned happens,...I think any reason can be placed upon that,..but the truth behind it is evil. If each of us could stop pointing the fingure at everyone else but ourselves,..to be able to see our own faults..............sorry got off topic................I have always found myself attracted to women of color. the woman I am going to marry is a beautiful queen and I treat her as such,..not because of her color,..but because she treats me as her king. my parents can see all of that. they see how she makes my life full. how could you want any different for your child

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