Interracial Dating Myth

topic posted Tue, August 21, 2007 - 9:53 AM by  philip
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There's a circulating rumour that tends to persist that the actual reason why a lot of folks go out of their way in indulging in interracial relationships is the myth that there exists a surviving chance of such couples coming from different ethnic backgrounds to thrive better in terms of having better understanding between themselves unlike others.

Has anyone ever thought of this before, and would such a statement to you hold some truth?
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  • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

    Sat, August 25, 2007 - 4:07 PM
    It is a myth? Huh. Who would have thought.

    Anyway, never dated a black man myself. My interests/hobbies/lifestyle are/have been so far outside the more common place interests of many black americans that I found very few to no common ground among my own. Plus, I like dating others of different racial backgrounds-makes life more interesting and they usual have quite the viewpoint on world or other races even.
    My father (he ain't resting in peace-probably partying in the Afterlife) use to say that he'd drop dead if I ever showed up with a black man on my arm. I told him most likely it would not happen so he didn't have to worry about dying at all. *g* He himself had two children from a mixed marriage during the 1960's when such things were definitely a no-no. I guess he might have felt race should not dictate your heart nor should one use it as an excuse to be stupid or exclude others.

    The only reason I've thought about it is because co-workers bring it up. (why? I dunno. And really who cares?). For the most part, I date outside my race because I like it. Contrast in skin colors, in thoughts, in feelings and experience in being which ever race makes for good conversation or learning new ways to think about our fellow humans.
    • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

      Tue, August 28, 2007 - 5:53 AM
      I can completely agree with the statement of why you haven't dated inside of your race. It's quite the same way for me too,and when I was younger my disconnection from my own social group was to the extent of basically being Ostracized in the black American community. I do also like all racial backgrounds, and I think that variety is indeed the spice of life, but also from my upbringing, just because you may be from a certain racial background, doesn't always mean that your personality traits will be representative of that racial background.
      • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

        Wed, August 29, 2007 - 6:12 PM
        "just because you may be from a certain racial background, doesn't always mean that your personality traits will be representative of that racial background. "
        --------------------------------------------
        Mubali hit the nail on the head. Awesome, awesome quote. *posts to personal blog*
  • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

    Tue, August 28, 2007 - 9:48 AM
    Ya know Phillip, I keep reading your original post and I still do not understand the question...

    I find that more POC men will ask me out than White. For me, I have a "type" preference but I will not disclude dating anyone if he does not meet that criteria exactly.

    Basically, I like all types of men but I tend to be attracted to POC men, in general. I like the contrast thing as well!
    • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

      Thu, August 30, 2007 - 9:59 AM
      Please tell me what "POC" means?
      • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

        Thu, August 30, 2007 - 10:23 AM
        you posted it in your" How do you feel" thread

        person of colour
        • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

          Thu, August 30, 2007 - 10:33 AM
          I want to say that Kaisenji and Mubali put into words much better than what I did. As a child I attended events by myself because my friends weren't interested. So I was exposed to a wide varity of interests and cultures. My mother encouarged and supported me in doing different things.
          • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

            Sat, September 1, 2007 - 10:11 AM
            The funny thing is in my family my parents were generally acceptive of other cultural things, but not really super supportive... For instance, I didn't start watching MTV untill I was 16 or so. Our house was a B.E.T. house. I was raised on Soul Music and didn't discover classic rock untill my late teens though my uncle. There were also stories my mom would tell about one of my uncles where she had a big issue with the way he talked. "He talked like a white guy from Conneticut." She never really picked on me about my speech, but there were times where I could tell she would have the same impression. A couple of years ago, her and I sat down and explained why I am the way that I am. And how many aspects of the african american popular culture portrayed our race in a somewhat negative fashion. And what I realized in the end was that what I didn't want to portray wasn't actually the black culture, it was the Ghetto culture that has been interlaced into black culture within the past I'd say 30 years...

            I'll use a few tv references to reinforce my point.

            The show "The Boondocks" (I love this show) - There's one particular episode that mentions "A Nigga Moment" (I encourage you to check out that series if you haven't seen it yet. It's very funny and sometimes a direct jab at afrocentrism....

            The Chappelle Show- He did a sketch called "when keepin it real, goes wrong."


            Now the ghetto culture isn't just reserved just for people of afroamerican decent, everyone's doing it... What I find really funny is when I go to different countries, like Russia for instance and I see a bunch of Russian thugs with gold chains and FUBU with one pant leg rolled up... One time while I was there, I got kinda surrounded by a group of younger people and they basically I think were trying to harrass/ rob me... But I didn't understand what they were saying, so I said in my best Ice Cube impersonation, "Nigga What?" They took a step back, and actually asked me where I was from... I said Oakland. I ended up drinking beer with them and getting to keep the money I had. :)
            • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

              Sun, September 2, 2007 - 10:43 PM
              Now, that's "brotha"-hood! What a story! Thanks for that, Mubali! :)
              • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

                Tue, September 4, 2007 - 10:52 AM
                At a certain age I began to read gothic novels, I love to read. Well I picked up an clipped english accent. One of our adult neighbors was making fun of the way I was speaking. My mom said that she thought i spoke beautifully and that people could understand me. What had started out as being put down turned into a proud moment for me.
                To this day one of the things people notice about me is my speech pattern. I am clear and easy to understand.
                • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

                  Tue, September 11, 2007 - 6:58 PM
                  I say old girl, spot on with those gothic novels ,what! What! You know that sounds way better when I use my highbrow english accent. When I was a kid, it was Monty Python's Flying Circus, Benny Hill, PBS british hour (you know their old programs), Dark Shadows and Faulty Towers that got my attention.
                  I love some of the programming PBS would dig up to show here in the States or that I stayed up (against rules) to watch on KCAL 9. *hums the Benny Hill Show theme song*
  • Re: Interracial Dating Myth

    Thu, November 1, 2007 - 4:56 PM
    hmm, for me, its simple, its all about that ASS!! lol, no seriously, my girl is incredible and it was mostly her brain and her personality that attracted me, just never thought i had a chance with anyone that awesome, ( she is SOOOO out of my league, lol) and the fact that she is black and im white only adds to the incredible attraction, she had to practically bang me over the head to get me to look at her sexaully cuz i was such a DORK lol, but i am SOO grateful she did. In her own words, " i didnt want you to just respect me for my mind you know". lol.
    WE have our difficulties, we come from completely differetn backgrounds and cultures, and it makes understanding one another a bit hard sometimes but that the best part overall, we always challenge each other, and its always interesting, and we NEVER run out of stuff to talk about or compare.

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