Older vs Younger Lovers

topic posted Mon, March 24, 2008 - 7:35 AM by  philip
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Would you prefer or are you often comfortable having older men/women for lovers, or do you prefer younger ones?

Is there a great difference between how an older and younger lover would treat you, or are them just the same?
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philip
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  • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

    Tue, March 25, 2008 - 8:17 PM
    My sweet heavens, Philip! Always with the doozies! :)

    I'll reserve my answer until a few more people say something to coax me to respond. I'm wondering though, Philip, what do you think?
    • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

      Wed, March 26, 2008 - 12:32 PM
      I've always believed that older women tend to read into stuff faster than the younger ones, and also, they usually don't waste energy playing with your mind and emotions: if she wants you in her bed, she's defintely not going to keep you hanging to get her answer. Also, my belief is that older women, like most men, know the big difference between having sex and making love.

      p.s. what do you mean by doozies?
      • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

        Fri, March 28, 2008 - 4:59 AM
        That's so funny! As I was preparing to leave, I wondered to myself, "Will Philip understand what I meant by 'doozies'? the last thing I'd want is a misunderstanding!" Imagine my surprise to see you ask that very question! I'm pleased that you asked before becoming upset or worse! :)

        A doozie...hm...A doozie is (in my failing, yet spirited attempt to capture its elusive definition) something that stumps or stuns your response because it is quite unexpected from the normal and everyday. It isn't a bad thing at all.

        I'm trying to think of an example. The best one I can think of is the character from 'American Pie' telling her story about band camp. I'm thinking you might not get that pop culture reference. Maybe you might.

        I can try to make one up. Best yet, I can explain my thought process when viewing your posts. When I read many posts, they tend to be simple questions that can go either way, whether simple or complex, in their response. When I see your posts, they are things I imagine many people think, but don't often say aloud for whatever reasons ranging from fear of judgment by others, feeling weird, etc. I see your questions and love the bold and direct nature of them. I love them because they make me go, how can I respond? Should I respond? It makes me think. That to me, is a doozie.

        If you get the 'American Pie' thing, that's just another kind of doozie altogether! :)
  • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

    Wed, March 26, 2008 - 11:21 PM
    It doesn't matter to me. My fiance' is 30 and I"m 42. I've dated older women and younger, and all that matters is that they care about you from the start without any hangups about it. I dated a woman one year older than me and she constantly gave me grief about my younger friends. Needless to say we aren't dating anymore. Now I happen to be lucky to have an open relationship where age isn't a problem for my fiance' and I. We've had younger partners and older partners than me(not by much, not that it makes that much of a difference). Love fits where it fits. I'm a firm believer in not trying to place anything or anyone into a box society has a hangup about. In the end, if they love you, they will treat you right no matter what age. If they don't love you, they'll show it some how. Just like my ex did...

    PS: This is a doozie of a question if you have to pick. I don't! Hehe. Peace of mind, peace of mind...

    Namaste'

    Andre'
  • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

    Sat, March 29, 2008 - 1:22 AM
    my range has been from 10 years younger to 9 years older. both have their merits and comfort levels.

    i would say it depends on the other person's maturity level, or lack thereof; or their energy and how they direct it.

    mmmm....bringing back some nice memories.

    good times.
    • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

      Fri, April 4, 2008 - 6:11 PM
      My range has been 17 years younger (I was 38, she 21) to 8 years older.
      The larger difference in years, made it difficult to relate to in talking of things, even though she was very mature thinking, my references to culture from my youth were lost on her, which I found disappointing.

      My financé is 10 years younger than me, and that is ok. I'm also not like any 40 year old I know, I behave more mid 30's (ok, sometimes late 20's).
  • Re: Older vs Younger Lovers

    Fri, April 4, 2008 - 10:24 PM
    In general its more of experience and maturity level that counts. As a rule I would not date anyone 10yrs younger than myself. I'm just not interested-looking at is fine. Maybe even sexually but more or less I just keep them within 3-5 years of my own age. Most guys I have dated have been same age to 25 years my senior. More often than not, I end up with someone about 10 years older than myself. I feel like past 40, most men are experienced enough to broaden their choices or have dated outside their race several times.
    Ok, I'm rambling now. Cheers!

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